listening

everyone wants to be listened to. everyone has something to say that's bugging him or her. being a listener is interesting if you are born for it but if you aren't, well its tough. here is an ice breaker, if you want to listen to someone, assume its you wanting to be listened to, this will help.
you know how hard it is for a man to open up to anyone unless he is drunk.
well that is how i learn t to listen. i really wanted to earn some money so i could own a handbag and some other important accessories  so i started looking for a job. i wasn't familiar with the place i got one but i gathered courage and went. it was a certain leisure lodge and i had to be given directions. it meant dealing with the type of guys i wasnt acquinted to so after being accepted i started the job.
it was hard at first but with time i lightened up a little and got to know a few people. after two months i got another offer in a busier club as a cashier. i was still afraid as i had heard how most drunkards treated ladies working in a club. once again i gathered the courage and went for the interview and got the job. the first few days were really hard especially dealing with the workmates. the boss was cool and a student like me so we were in the same page.
when the first customer approached me, i just looked at him and waited for him to make the order.
"Hey. why do you look like you are feeling really cold?" he asked
it was sunny outside but i had this heavy jacket on me.
"That's because when i woke up it was cold and i haven't had a chance to get rid of it," she had woken up early update the days stock and check the previous
he ordered and sat right there at the counter. he asked her so many questions which she answered briefly as i pretended to be really busy.
my first few days were like that until word spread around of the new hard girl in the club. i just wanted to work and not entertain anyone. at this point i did not get any tips until one day a guy came to the counter and told me to include any drink i wanted in his bill and so i did. that was my first tip. the following day he came again and the same thing happened but this time he came with a friend. they started arguing and asked me to be the judge and choose who was right. and in the moment, instead of asking question they started giving me stories about their work, how hard they work and go home to wives who instead of welcoming them well they start shouting.
this went on until the counter was full and everyone ws talking and others gaping at me saying the same thing
"so you can talk and smile,"
strangely i was smiling and laughing with them as i served them. and my life there change, my tips increased without anyone asking to sleep with me and if they did, i asked them about their family and yeah they would talk endless and i would listen with interest.
that's how i started listening because you know what, another persons word is way interesting than yours especially if they are willing to talk and share about it.
have you ever done this?